resilience: the ability to become strong, healthy, or successful again after something bad happens.*
I kept thinking about that word. About people who, after failure, get up, brush themselves off and try again. I thought about resilience in the garden. Plants that come back after being decimated by pests or shriveled by drought or damaged by frost.
A plant doesn't think about it. It just grows again. Or doesn't.
I kept thinking about resilience as it pertains to rejection. I've written about rejection before. It's a constant struggle. Facing rejection and persevering. I've had some rejections lately. But I've also had some reassurances, reminders from the universe to keep going. Keep going, my constant mantra.
Yesterday, as I was thinking about all of this and struggling with a problem that Matthias and I have been dealing with, I read about the shootings in Charleston. My heart ached and I thought how resilience isn't just necessary for entrepreneurs, it's needed for everyone in this world where sometimes anger, hatred and ugliness seem to outweigh all else.
And yet, they don't. Yes, there is ugliness and hatred and all manner of atrocities, every single day all over the world. We are all struggling with some problem or fear, some trouble or rejection or heartache. But, there is also beauty, hope, joy, love. The world is filled with those things, too.
The other night I was agonizing over the problem I mentioned. My thoughts replayed in a loop and I couldn't break free from them. And then I noticed that the light had changed. I got up to look outside. The sky was shifting from golden to pink. It was cloudy and I couldn't see the sunset, but the air was glowing. It was beautiful. Magical. A perfect reminder just when I needed one. I stood in that moment, soaking it in and letting my thoughts and anxiety drop away.
Focusing on beauty and joy and love, being hopeful, doesn't erase the ugliness, but it does help us to be resilient, to move forward, to keep going.
I know you are struggling with something. Each of us is. I wish resilience for you. I wish that you can focus on the beauty and love and joy in the world and pass it on to others. Share the hope. Be that golden glowing moment and help build resilience in us all.
*from Merriam-Webster online